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March/April 2014 Print

Insomnia in older adults

Sleep patterns change as we age. Older adults need just as much sleep as ever. But they often have difficulty falling asleep and staying asleep at night. And even with a full night’s sleep, many elders don’t feel refreshed in the morning. That’s because they don’t get enough time in the deep sleep stage of the sleep cycle.

Most elders find ways to cope with these normal changes. Cutting back on caffeine and taking a 30-minute midafternoon nap are recommended remedies. Sometimes problems sleeping are linked to temporary stress or a disturbing event. These go away over time.

But for some older adults, sleep difficulty becomes chronic. If your loved one has ongoing insomnia, it puts him or her at greater risk of falling or of getting into a car accident. It may also contribute to memory loss or depression. Here’s what to look for:

  • Daytime sleepiness that gets in the way of normal activities.
  • Difficulty concentrating or remembering things.
  • Increased irritability or confusion.
  • More frequent mistakes or accidents.

Bring any such symptoms to the doctor’s attention. They may be related to an underlying health issue, such as

  • Sleep apnea (on/off breathing during sleep)
  • Restless leg syndrome (leg movement during sleep)
  • GERD (stomach acid regurgitation)
  • Urinary problems that result in the need to get up frequently at night

Many sleep problems in older adults may be related to a chronic condition, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, asthma, or Parkinson’s disease. Medications can also be at the root of insomnia in the elderly.

Ideally, provide the doctor at least a week’s worth of notes about your relative’s daytime and nighttime sleep habits. Also bring information about health and current medications (both prescribed and over the counter). The doctor may suggest your relative change sleep-related routines. Or he or she may order medications to promote sleep. Sometimes an overnight sleep study is needed to determine the most appropriate treatment.

 

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Talking about assisted living

Raising this sensitive topic requires patience and compassion on your part. Prepare ahead of time. The best approach is several small conversations over many months. This gives your parent time to adjust emotionally.

Before you talk, listen and observe

  • What worries does Mom express? Fatigue doing chores? Problems getting out and about? Loneliness?
  • What do you observe physically? Is there food in the refrigerator? Any changes in housekeeping habits or personal hygiene? Forgetting to take medications?

Ask questions. Learn what your loved one already has in mind and start with those options if at all possible. You will get less resistance long term if you show you honor your relative’s priorities.

Ease into the conversation with stories. For example, describe a situation with a friend, or an article you read. Concentrate on the positives related to your loved one’s concerns, without pushing your agenda.

  • “My coworker’s mother moved into an assisted living community. Now her mom is liberated from basic chores and gets to focus on the things she enjoys doing. Just like college. She LOVES it!”

Speak from your perspective. Unless there are significant memory problems, always acknowledge that your parent is still in charge of his or her own life.

  • “I’m concerned about your health and safety, Dad. I notice [***concrete example***]. It worries me. Do me a favor, please. Let’s explore some options for getting you some help.”

If you encounter resistance, back off. Arguing or trying too hard to persuade can be counterproductive.

Bring in an objective third party, if needed. If safety or dementia is a factor, a professional geriatric care manager can provide insight that is not influenced by family history or politics. These professionals understand elders and are even trained to lead family meetings so everyone can get on the same page.

 

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Tax breaks for in-home care

At tax time, our thoughts naturally turn toward deductions. What might count as a medical expense for your ill older relative?

With elders, there’s a fine line between health care and personal care. Perhaps your loved one needs some help getting up from a chair. Or perhaps he or she can no longer put together a meal. These situations create safety and health risks. But medical deductions typically cover only the costs of highly skilled providers. Personal tasks such as these don’t require a registered nurse!

Fortunately, the IRS now recognizes that personal care is a health issue for many individuals. As such, in-home care can be deducted as a medical expense under specific conditions.

The first step is to obtain a letter from a licensed health professional. From a doctor or nurse practitioner, for example. The letter must certify that in the past 12 months your loved one either

  • has had a chronic condition that for 90 days or more required assistance with at least two activities of daily living. Activities of daily living are typically intimate tasks such as bathing, eating, and going to the bathroom. Also, dressing and getting up or down from a chair or bed. Or
  • has required substantial assistance because of “cognitive impairment.” This means that your loved one has a condition that affects memory, thinking, or judgment. Without a helper there most of the time, the person could easily get hurt or lost.

To be deducted, the sum total of medical expenses, including for personal care, must amount to at least 7.5% of adjusted gross income if your loved one is 65 or older or 10% if he or she is younger than 65.

Having help at home can be expensive. But the costs may be tax deductible. Check with your CPA to confirm that your loved one’s care situation meets all the eligibility requirements.

 

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